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A complete beginner’s guide to golden showers

While the words ‘golden shower’ can make you think of glorious sexual fantasies involving groupies, orgies, and whatnot, you might hold back a gulp once you discover what it really is.

If curiosity gets the better of you, and you think that pee play is actually a good idea to bring to the bedroom, then I encourage you to go forth boldly and read more about this sex kink, including what you should do and how you can try it out for yourselves.   

What in the World is a Golden Shower?

Golden shower, a.k.a pee play, piss play, or watersports is quickly becoming a sought-after sexual experience around the globe.

Let’s get something straight here- a golden shower is a form of watersports and an act of BDSM. To the uninitiated, BDSM is a form of dominant-submissive play between two people, regardless of age or sex. It’s also a roleplay scenario, such as when a teacher gives hard ‘lessons’ to the student, or when a person is tied up while the other is free to do what they want, sex-wise.

A golden shower, therefore, is any sexual act involving pee or piss. Believe it or not, some get a huge turn-on when they see another urinating or involved in the process of peeing. You may have a passing interest, or maybe feel something when you see your partner or someone pee. Heck, there’s a whole porn category dedicated to piss play.

The truth is that it’s not that hard to get into water sports, but there are several things you should keep in mind. First is consent, then hygiene. After you check both boxes, then feel free to experiment and see how your session goes.

How to Do a Golden Shower

If you think there’s a special requirement to starting pee play, there’s not.

The fascinating thing about golden showers is that they can vary from one couple (or group, if you’re lucky enough) to another.

The rough outline is that golden showers mostly involve urinating- it can either be from you or your partner. Also, the direction of the pee and where it can happen also varies.

You can pee on your partner as a sort of dominance (in BDSM), or you can watch your partner pee while you masturbate or play with a sex toy. You can also pee near them, e.g., in front or beside them, or any place where you could see them in the act.

People who get a kick out of golden showers may request for you to pee on them, which shouldn’t sound too strange. In some instances, those people may even want to drink them, although again you should be prepared beforehand and afterward.

Yes, watersports isn’t complicated at all if that’s what you’re thinking. However, you should be prepared for the mess that comes, especially if you intend to do it in the bedroom. 

Tips to Prepare for Piss Play

Excited about doing a golden shower? Read up on these five tips first so you can enjoy and have a great time.

Get Consent

You’re going to be in a lot of trouble if you pee on your sex partner without getting their permission first. That said, always ask for consent before you start a pee play. However, you may want to ramp up to the idea of the BDSM session rather than simply asking point blank. It’s up to you how you want to proceed, but a good starting question will be, ‘do you want to try something new?’

Talk About Golden Showers Thoroughly Before You Try It

Now we’re getting to the good part. If your partner is receptive to water sports, then you can continue discussing the possible ways how you can both enjoy the experience. Are they prepared to do a golden shower, or are they having doubts about the unconventional act?

I’d recommend not forcing the issue if your partner flat-out refuses it. The good news is that you’ve floated the thought of doing pee play, and if they’re really curious then they might suggest you both do it on your next play session.

Consider Doing It In The Bathroom or Shower First

There’s a reason why golden showers are often done in the shower or bathroom- it eliminates the mess and cleanup that follows.

First-timers will definitely want to consider doing watersports in the shower. The urine goes down a readily available drain, and you both can wash and clean yourselves up afterward. Plus, it will be okay to pee on the walls or floor since you can just spray water and soap (something you won’t be able to do in the bedroom, for example).

Prepare For Cleanup Afterward

Or better yet, plan ahead so you won’t have to scrub the floors or carpet. Lay out plastic sheets or any absorbent material, such as towels in areas where you’ll be doing the golden shower. Make sure that they’re large enough to accommodate accidental spills and splashes. Also, have plenty of wipes and disinfectants on hand so you can get the pee off your or your partner’s skin. If your initial setup was inadequate (meaning you had to do extra work), consider laying out a bigger spread.

Be Aware of The Risks

Pee is not sterile and can lead to irritation of the skin, eyes, and mouth. You shouldn’t try it if there are any open wounds or scratches in a prominent area, such as the face, arms, legs, or private parts. Wait until the wound is healed so you won’t have to worry about possible infections.

Don’t freak out if pee accidentally gets into your mouth- finish the act, then calmly spit it out or gargle with clean water. It’s okay every now and then, but don’t make it a habit!

Yes, You Can Add Sex Toys in a Golden Shower

Since there’s no hard and fast rule in regards to doing the golden shower, you’re free to add your favorite sex toys in the mix.

In the BDSM niche, you can play around with cuffs, ball gags, whips and latex, just to name a few.

I’d recommend a vibrator in the vaginal or anal region to get extra stimulation, or a male masturbator, automatic cock stroker, or blowjob machine if that’s what you or your partner want. In the same light as introducing watersports, you’d best get consent for each item you intend to bring in the bedroom.

Acting out your fantasies and role playing are welcome here as well. A good example would be a peeping tom or catching your co-worker in the act where they shouldn’t be. You can watch several porn videos to get an idea of the atmosphere and how to proceed, but in the end it’s really just doing what you want.

Golden Shower FAQs

How did golden showers become so popular?

Apparently, golden shower, or the act of peeing during sex has always been popular. We just don’t know it! In the BDSM niche are lots of people who want to experiment with various dominant-submissive scenarios, and pee play is catching fire. There’s a certain appeal, or acquired taste, if you will, in seeing other people piss and getting a sexual kick out of it.

What do you do during a golden shower?

Watersports is easy because anything that involves pee is already considered a golden shower. You can make it as glorious as you want, e.g, drinking lots of water so it gushes out, or as discreet as you want- it’s all up to you and your partner.

Is pee play safe?

Yes, as long as you keep a few things in mind. First, do not attempt to do piss play if anyone has an open wound or scratch. If you or your partner has a mouth infection or urinary tract infection, then it’s best to hold off on the fetish until you’re all better and healthy.

Can you get an infection from a golden shower?

Also, yes. Infections are quite common especially if there’s an open wound or skin. I know that you’re probably raring to go and try this new experience, but you should always prioritize health and well-being over fantasies. The golden shower can wait.

How can I convince my partner to do a golden shower?

The best way to convince your partner to do pee play is to be open and honest about it. Say that you want to try it out and see their reaction. If they say ‘no’, then you should respect their decision and wait for them to open up about the topic when they’re ready.

Get Downright Dirty By Trying a Golden Shower

Explore your wild side with golden showers and you may not think of sex the same way again. When you broaden your mind and try new experiences, you can enjoy life more. That said, pee play is not for everyone, but it’s worth knowing that this niche sexual act is out there.